The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men And What To Do About It

Originally published October 17, 2006

I got this in my e-mail today and thought I would share it with all of you. Because this important information. This might help us to have more successful relationships. It was written by a fellow named Christian Carter and while his real intent is to get silly women like me to sign up for his free newsletter, he is nice enough to share a few tips with me along the way. Thank you Christian!

This is how it works: Christian's comments in black, mine in blue. It's like Christian and I are having a conversation, except there are no knives involved. Here we go.

MISTAKE #1: Betting YourLove Life On His "Potential"

When a woman stays with a guy that is wrong, all wrong for them because she feels they have a "deeper connection," or that he "might change." This woman needs to break free of this behavior.

If you can't make a man change for you, then you aren't a real woman. You are a failure. Just end it now.

MISTAKE #2: Assuming You"Get" Men & Their Psychology

Men are different from women and women need to deal with it. Men don't work with non-verbal communication like women do. You need to learn how to use your body language in a way that will attract the men tha you want.

Whore it up. It works. Go with it.

MISTAKE #3: Pretending ToBe Something For A Man

Don't kiss up to a guy or do things you would not normally do just to get his attention. Being sexy is great, but it's important to be yourself.

Don't ever try to fit into an ideal of what you think a man will want. However, if you put on an apron and bake cookies while scrubbing the floor, I guarantee he will like you more. So, do that. Oh, and put out a lot.

MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You"Feel" Too Early With Him

Do not say "I really really like you" after one or two dates. That will scare him off.

Telling him that you "feel" that he is too precious for this earth and will need to send him to a "better place" that he "deserves" might scare him off. Improper "use" of "quotes" is scary, too.

MISTAKE #5: Misreading TheImportant "Signals" That Men Send

Men are always sending signals about how they feel about a woman. There are four levels of these signals... LEARN THEM:

1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally available"3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future

When a guy calls you drunk at 2am and never, ever any other time, this is an important signal. there are four main levels of what signal he is sending:
1. social: he really likes you
2. emotional: he doesn't have a wife or another girlfriend
3. physical: he respects you and doesn't find you at all slutty
4. love state: he thinks you are "the one"
In other words, a keeper. You go girl!!

MISTAKE #6: Relying OnYour Natural Ability ToJudge A Man's Character

You need to learn how to identify a good man from a bad one. You can't do this intuitively. Men will rarely be able to communicate to you honestly that they are ready to have a long term relationship, it is more indirect. Learn to read the signs.

Learn to read his signs. In the meantime, make up some fun signals to send over to him. A surefire signal: stare at him. don't blink. narrow your eyes a bit (they think that is sexy). stay like this for approx two minutes. then laugh. then do it again.

MISTAKE #7: Expecting ARelationship To Make You Happy

Wanting to be with a man just so he will take care of you is a no no.

Being happy in a relationship is a silly requirement. Instead, spend your days figuring him out and reading his signals. If you don't have time to go to work, don't worry -- you'll have him figured him and really, that is life's greatest reward.

MISTAKE #8: Trying To "Convince"Him To Like You Or Love You

You can never change the way a man feels about you when it comes to attraction.

Trying to convince someone to love you isn't going to work. You can't argue your way into someone's heart. However, a good plastic surgeon is sometimes all you need. A nip, a tuck, a new nose and presto! A new you. He might not love the new you, but its definitely, definitely worth a shot.

MISTAKE #9: Not KnowingWhat To Do In Each Type Of Situation

Men know what they want from a woman, and you need to figure out what that is, or you could lose out on the guy.

Always know what to do or say in order to keep the guy. Number one priority. Try to have a phone conversation with the guy before the date. Not as yourself. Call as a market researcher, then proceed to spend a few hours with him on the telephone going over all of the details of his life, particularly what he likes in a woman. Take good notes. Then take a small branding iron and brand these details onto your palm. A good start to a successful relationship.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help

Biggest mistake of all. It's ok to ask for help. And it just so happens that i have a FREE NEWSLETTER to give you that help!! Why don't you sign up for it????????????? I also have an EBOOK!!

Giving relationship advice is easy. Oh you silly women will do anything to get a man!! How cute!